In general, dating can be tough work and first dates can be even tougher. One of the first things that can easily turn a first date into a difficult endeavor has to do with knowing exactly what to say. By nature, people tend to be afraid of failing; fearing rejection from square one. Both of these fears contribute to the fear of not having adequate conversation on the first date with someone that you sincerely care about.
Conversations on the first date can play a very large determining role on whether or not a second, third or even fourth date will ever happen. Here are some excellent first date conversation starters.
A great way to start up a conversation on your first date is to find out as much information as you can about the other person. Do not ask too many personal questions. But rather, focus on broad topics during first date conversation. Keep things basic by asking about jobs, favorites, interests and hobbies for example. Use open ended questions rather than questions that simply require yes or no as answers. These questions are much better creators of conversation.
While you are on your first date, you should absolutely listen for interesting information that could possibly lead to the conversation heading in a different direction. For instance, if the woman you are with decides to start talking about a snorkeling trip she took the last year, you can start to talk specifically about snorkeling, scuba diving, the ocean and other similar things that she may be interested in. You can ask things like: “was this the first time you went snorkeling? How did you learn how to do it?”
If you listen intently to the conversation during the first date, you can learn a lot more about the person you are becoming passionate about which is great but you also have to be prepared to have the ability to carry on the conversation in case the person you’re with is not much of a talker. This is where guides like the Conversation Escalation Download come in extremely handy.
It’s one thing to keep a conversation going but it’s another whole ball game to be able to keep the conversation going while making it extremely fun and building sexual tension at the same time. There is a very delicate line here because you don’t want to be overly sexual as this can turn many women off. The key here is moderation and being able to gauge how the other person responds to it which will in turn give you a feel as to what direction to carry the conversation into.